When sex is enjoyed by both partners it can be fulfilling and satisfying. The problem is that many people are so worried about ensuring that they are doing well in bed that they forget to enjoy themselves, or they forget to make sure their partner is having a good time. However, there are some easy ways to become a better lover and none of them require having to learn (many) new positions or get into costume (unless that works for you).
Although our natural pheromones are what attracts people to one another, that doesn’t mean you can allow your body odor to become overpowering. Someone who is clean and tidy, who showers regularly, and who uses deodorant is always going to be a better idea than hopping straight into bed after a long day at work. That isn’t going to make your partner want to get close to you.
Talking to your lover is more powerful than you might think. It may be embarrassing to start with, but talking about sex, finding out what your lover wants from you, and letting them know what you like in bed will go a long way to ensuring that your lovemaking is not just good but great.
If your partner feels pressured to sleep with you, they aren’t going to enjoy themselves very much. Even if they do want to make love, pressuring them into trying a position they aren’t keen on, for example, is going to kill the mood significantly. So make sure that you are doing things that you both want to do. When you do want to try something new talk about it first to gauge their reaction.
Although looks and physique aren’t what’s important in a relationship and lover, keeping as fit and healthy as possible means that sex will be a lot better. Your endurance will be increased, you won’t get so out of breath, and you’ll be more flexible too. Eating the right foods and exercising regularly are both great ways to start this keep fit routine off correctly, as is reducing the amount of alcohol you drink and completely quitting smoking.
Get The Basics Right
Good sex really doesn’t have to be complicated. Get the basics right and make sure you can find the right erogenous zones in simple positions before you try to switch things up. If this means having to do some research then go for it – plenty of magazines and website will give you the details on how to make sure you’ve got it all exactly right.
Feeling like an afterthought or as part of a routine is not sexy. Although it’s a good idea to plan sex, try to make it seem spontaneous if you can. That way you get the best of both worlds as a lover; you know you’ve got enough time because you’ve planned in advance, but you can still enjoy the thrill of the spur of the moment.